Rest is Radical Self-Care: Five Ways to Begin

Does the thought of non-stop guests, endless social gatherings and too-full days make you want to grab a blanket and head to the nearest cave? You’re not alone! That’s why life balance coach and speaker Renée Trudeau shared the following guest post with Girls That Create on five ideas to help reclaim rest.

This year has been emotionally intense. In addition to the chaos we’ve all been experiencing on a macro-level, most of us have felt over-scheduled, overworked and unable to unplug. Many of us are navigating big career and life challenges—and we’ve had little time to integrate these changes.

Frankly, we’re exhausted. We’re ready for rest. Not a relaxed evening on the deck, but a serious stretch of lazy days, long naps, walks by the river, deep nourishing slumber and joyful, easy, simple connections with friends and family that feed us emotionally and spiritually.

What we most need in the coming weeks is permission to rest, relax, unplug and do nothing.

“If we feel tired, we think something is wrong. Nothing is wrong. We are just tired. We need rest. Sometimes a lot of it, if we’ve gone for years vetoing our body’s signals.” – Dr. Claudia Welch

However, with all the family expectations, activities and invitations that come with the summer season knocking on our door—what do we do? I challenge you to take the road less traveled and take a radical stand for what you most need this week (and beyond).

Five Ideas to Help Reclaim Rest

Schedule down time now. Block out periods on your calendar during this summer for “dedicated relaxation,” where your only job is to unplug from electronics and rest. Schedule half-days, full days, weekends or an entire week if you can swing it. Maybe you’ll feel like a nature hike when your period for renewal rolls around or maybe you’re better served by staying in your pajamas, turning off your phone, sipping on iced hibiscus tea and watching the fireflies. Make downtime a priority and schedule this now so you can honor your commitment to deep to-the-bones self-renewal.

Just say no. Decide what’s most important to you and let everything else go. If it’s not an “absolute yes,” then it’s a no. Don’t want to miss Aunt Tracy’s special July 4th picnic but feel exhausted at the thought of attending your neighbor’s August block party? Just say no and let it go. You’ll be glad you did. The opportunity will come back around next year. Our quality of life is always enhanced when we let go of things— not when we add them.

(Check out Nine Creative Ways to Say No for Self-Care from Trudeau’s book The Mother’s Guide to Self-Renewal: How to Reclaim, Rejuvenate and Re-Balance Your Life).

Ask for help. Give yourself permission to ask for and receive help, whether it’s cooking, socializing or hosting family. Do it different. Be willing to let go of tradition for the sake of enhanced emotional well-being. Step out of your comfort zone, reach out to friends, neighbors and coworkers and ask for their help so you can create more space for yourself and your family to just “be.” What are three things on your plate right now that you could delegate, outsource or ask for support around?

Do less to experience more. Positive psychology researchers say we’re happiest when we keep things simple and have fewer choices. We create stress when we try and cram too much into our schedules and then try to control everything we’re juggling. My colleague, author Joan Borysenko says, “Your to-do list is immortal; it will live on long after you’re dead.” How can you simplify your summer plans? Homemade popsicles and an evening of great conversation with people who let you show up “warts and all,” is hard to beat. Do less, so you can experience more.

Unplug and spend time in nature. My colleague/friend Richard Louv, author of the Nature Principle says, “Time spent in nature is the most cost-effective and powerful way to counteract the burnout and sort of depression that we feel when we sit in front of a computer all day.” I call nature the ultimate antidepressant and re-set button. If anyone in my family is exhausted or out of sorts, off to the greenbelt we go. Being in nature offers us nourishment and renewal on all levels— physical, emotional, spiritual and mental. It is a powerful, restorative and healing force. Tap it!

Innate Push and Pull

There is an innate push and pull that many of us feel during the summer season (socialization vs. relaxation). When we pause and tune-in to the natural cycles of nature— and our bodies— we hear the call to slow down, go inward and contemplate where we’ve been and where we want to go.

I challenge you: do it differently this week. What do you most need to replenish and restore? If the call to make rest and renewal a priority resonates, make this number one for yourself and for your family. Then, you can celebrate Labor Day with friends and family feeling refreshed and clear on how you want to use your energy this fall.

Renée Trudeau

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